deciding to be offended
i don't get offended easily. i think i have trained it out of myself. it is just too hard to get anywhere if you let little things be something you can't get past.
but this week i have made a conscious choice to start getting offended.
1. i was watching tommy lee's rockstar supernova final with tim the other night. yes, we just got it. it is the only episode i have seen. it was clear that the girl was the best overall "frontman" out of the final 4. she owned the stage, looked the part, had a rock voice. really the total package. the guy on the other hand, was good, but just good. not original, unique, or exceptionally talented in any capacity. you would not be able to pick him out of a frontman line up. just your run of the mill rockstar. but tommy and his boys chose the guy. it is clear he was chosen because they could not get over the girl factor. outrage. dilana did get a one album record deal for 2nd place. so, look for it when it comes out. i dare you to prove me wrong. i am offended as a female.
2. i saw a preview for the new zach braff movie. the one where he is getting married and has some pre-wedding crisis about his life ending. how come no movies ever revolve around the woman being afraid her life is ending? why is it that getting married has this rap? seriously, up until recently, getting married has not stopped men (as a broad sweeping generalization) from going on to do whatever they want in life. why the stereotype? i am offended as a married woman.
3. i watched a documentary where someone said something along the lines of - everyone in our band is from functional families because their parents were married. let me say, on behalf of children from divorced families everywhere, i truly believe my family would have been less functional had my parents stayed married. now, we can discuss divorce from a spiritual or scriptural perspective, but from a functional perspective i know i cannot be the only one who feels this way. i was offended as a fairly functional child of divorce.
being offended is a lost art. people either go overboard and get offended at every little thing or, like me, banish offense completely. being offended is a tool that should be used with caution and wisdom, but should be used. keep it as part of your arsenal, but not the only tool.
watch this space and i'll give you any updates on things i decide to be offended about.
but this week i have made a conscious choice to start getting offended.
1. i was watching tommy lee's rockstar supernova final with tim the other night. yes, we just got it. it is the only episode i have seen. it was clear that the girl was the best overall "frontman" out of the final 4. she owned the stage, looked the part, had a rock voice. really the total package. the guy on the other hand, was good, but just good. not original, unique, or exceptionally talented in any capacity. you would not be able to pick him out of a frontman line up. just your run of the mill rockstar. but tommy and his boys chose the guy. it is clear he was chosen because they could not get over the girl factor. outrage. dilana did get a one album record deal for 2nd place. so, look for it when it comes out. i dare you to prove me wrong. i am offended as a female.
2. i saw a preview for the new zach braff movie. the one where he is getting married and has some pre-wedding crisis about his life ending. how come no movies ever revolve around the woman being afraid her life is ending? why is it that getting married has this rap? seriously, up until recently, getting married has not stopped men (as a broad sweeping generalization) from going on to do whatever they want in life. why the stereotype? i am offended as a married woman.
3. i watched a documentary where someone said something along the lines of - everyone in our band is from functional families because their parents were married. let me say, on behalf of children from divorced families everywhere, i truly believe my family would have been less functional had my parents stayed married. now, we can discuss divorce from a spiritual or scriptural perspective, but from a functional perspective i know i cannot be the only one who feels this way. i was offended as a fairly functional child of divorce.
being offended is a lost art. people either go overboard and get offended at every little thing or, like me, banish offense completely. being offended is a tool that should be used with caution and wisdom, but should be used. keep it as part of your arsenal, but not the only tool.
watch this space and i'll give you any updates on things i decide to be offended about.
posted by jamie at 1:31 PM
Comments on "deciding to be offended"
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Becs said ... (3:05 PM) :
post a commentI just gave you some songs on your last post.
and just a point for you to argue with an then not be upset about any more...Dihlana wasn't all that good. Julie and I watched the show the whole way through (despight wanting to drop Brook Burke, Dave Navarro and Jason Newsted off a cliif every time they opened their mouth) Dihlana was cool to see twice and then wasn't engaging. The dude that won was slightly more engaging, but didn't fit the band. The ausie however did fit the band who was going for a more pop- metal sound . It didn't matter the house band was way better.
That being said... dihlana wasn't picked because she was a girl.
so you can still be offended.
thanks, sean.
it means alot that i have your permission to be offended. what a relief.
nice pic.
Reading your post I remembered being offended the other day while driving past a very obvious pregnant women. She was on the corner smoking. For the love of God what is with people!? I was offended as I was once a very cautious pregnant women. Erg!
as i have said [probably too many times] over the past couple of days:
being a girl SUCKS.